ABA AZIZ MAKAJA: LOVE-EROTIC (UN)EDUCATION AND DRUG ADDICTION
held on the symposium «Youth and drugs» in the University of
Zagreb, Mai 1999 and the «15. World Congress of Sexology» in Paris,
June 2001
Introduction
This presentation on “The Young People and Drugs” is based on
the experiences and understanding of my work as a spiritual teacher
with young people aged 18 to 30 for over a quarter of a century
(over 70% of my clients). The theoretical and practical knowledge
acquired on the promotion of health and development of awareness
in young people is the result of long systematic activity in about
ten European countries, Australia, and lately in America.
I had never thought I would deal with drug addicts, but they started
coming to me, following their dreams about better life, happiness
and truth. In this way, practically by itself, developed the love-erotic
therapy with its basic elements
1) basic technique of komaja meditation,
2) loving (love meditation),
3) maituna,
4) theatre of truth,
5) polytherapy,
6) togetherness
7) absolute disregard of addictions.
By means of this technique, in the last ten
years, some 1500 to 2000 young people have freed themselves from
tobacco addiction and have permanently stopped taking alcohol (“Tobacco
is drug No 1, followed by alcohol” – from the Report on Drugs and
Addiction, Federal Ministry of Health, Republic of Germany, 1998);
some 200 to 300 have permanently freed themselves from heavy drugs
(hashish, marijuana, etc); also 15 to 20 persons under the age of
thirty have permanently been liberated from addiction of very heavy
or heaviest drugs like LSD, heroin etc. The number of addicts who
have regularly attended komaja’s spiritual education over 12 months
and who have freed themselves from addictions is over 90%, regardless
of the type of addiction – cigarettes or heavy drugs.
Objectives of this presentation:
1. draw attention to the main causes of addiction in young people,
2. draw attention to some new possibilities of prevention and disease,
rehabilitation and re-socialisation of young addicts.
Causes of addiction
The fact that the conference of “Young People and Drugs” of the
Student Centre, Zagreb University, never even mentions the word
“cause” among its seven main objectives, clearly depicts how the
whole western civilisation, its medicine, psychiatry, psychology
have gone astray. In short, here are the seven objectives: 1) manifestation
and extent of addiction, 2) addiction in student halls of residence,
3) impact of addiction on the young people, 4) prevention of addiction,
5) treatment and re-socialisation, 6) legal and penal aspects, and
just from the title “highlight the problem of addiction in the young
people from all aspects” we can deduct the identity card for the
analysis of causes of addiction in the young people.
Why do once powerful colonial countries now have great problems,
on one hand, with the growing fascistoid right wing extremism, and
on the other hand, with an exceptionally high rate of crime and
a-sociality of their former slaves and servants (e.g. American Negroes,
Australian Aborigines)?!
Why do technologically most developed countries of the world “enjoy”
the plankton-free seas and ozone-free atmosphere?!
Why, in spite of the amazing advancement of world medicine and psychology
are there fewer physically and mentally healthy people ((e.g. coronary
and heart diseases, metabolic diseases, cancer, AIDS, sexual, nervous
and mental diseases, addiction diseases)?!
The answer: Because most human beings have not yet reached the degree
of development where each potential action (both of an individual
and of the community) is understood as a cause of something from
one’s own near or distant future. On the example of medicine and
psychology, this means that their research and activity should possibly
consist of 70% preventive and just some thirty percent curative
character, and this ratio should naturally be accompanied by adequate
social contributions.
A positive development in this direction can be noticed in Switzerland
this year. According to the data by “Professional Institution for
Alcoholism and Other Drug Problems” (SFA), over a million people
in Switzerland do not have control over their alcohol consumption.
On the federal level, the first national campaign was started –
the “Everything under control?” programme. In the framework of this
four-year programme, nearly 4 million Swiss francs have been planned
for public awareness for 1999. Although such state programmes and
investments in the nation’s health are praiseworthy, they still
do not free one from the duty and necessity to recognise and eliminate
a series of important causes of addiction.
The causes of drug addiction can be classified into five broad categories,
each of which can further be divided into a series of sub-categories.
1. De-naturalisation of the modern man
- lack of movement and inadequate movement
- air pollution and excessive noise
- being surrounded by unhealthy materials and radiation (at home,
in the street, at work)
- inadequate exposure of senses to natural colours, sounds, smells,
flavour etc
- lack of togetherness
- crime, often by authorities (politicians and police are often
involved in the traffic of destructive and deadly "relishes")
- other
2. Sexual and love-erotic causes
- sexual abuse by parents and immediate relatives
- sexual abuse by other persons
- transfer and reflection of sexual and love-erotic retardation
and/or parent deviation on the child
- sexuality and love-erotic parent relationship (e.g. "Dad
never hugged Mum in front of us")
- silence, repression and aggression instead of love-erotic education
(both at home and at school)
- the so-called "love problems"
- intensive adolescent turbulences
- physical and/or mental sexual deficiencies and/or anomalies
- generally low level of sexual and love-erotic culture, resulting
in sex vulgarisation and sexism
- etc.
3. Religious sources
- rigid adherence to dogmas and/or precepts
contrary to natural and divine laws (e.g. witches should be burned,
or, nowadays, each abortion, interruptio graviditatis, is a sin)
- religious exclusiveness and intolerance
- attitude of religion to human sexuality:
a) anatemising
b) suppression
c) wrong attitude to sexuality (e.g. sex should serve only for
the preservation of the species)
d) sexual abuse of young people of both sexes by priests
- other
4. Stress
- over-demanding curriculum
- the so-called "Leistungdruckkultur", i.e. culture
with pressure that everything must always be done in the best
possible way
- glutted senses, nervous system and spirit with stimuli of city
life, media propaganda and computers
- materialism, i.e buck-chasing, racing for fortunes
- racing for pleasure and sensation
- other
5. Inadequate diet
- consumption of dead animals and fish
- in this connection - intake of antibiotics, hormones, pesticides
and heavy metals
- food which inspires basest passions (e.g. onion, garlic, strong
spices)
- excessive use of medicines
- etc.
The above causes of addictions are crossed
in an individual in different combinations, proportion and amount.
It is up to the individual’s natural disposition, both genetic and
mental, and a series of external factors (education, social environment
etc.) where he will become an addict in a definite combination of
circumstances.
Conclusion: A radical elimination of addiction causes necessarily
implies radical intervention in the very foundations of our civilisation.
This means the establishment of a new culture of living, new religion
and philosophy, new sexual and love-erotic culture, new diet, new
ethics and morality. And naturally, since undoubtedly good begets
good and evil begets evil, any serious therapy should necessarily
include those who bear and educate the young – i.e. parents! In
the first stage it is necessary to create separate therapeutic groups
for the parents and for the young people. In the second stage, the
two groups should be treated together. All this holds for the prevention
therapeutic groups.
Prevention, treatment, rehabilitation and re-socialisation
Owing to the lack of knowledge on one’s true nature, a disease is
born, known as egotism. An epidemics of egotism results in an ailing
society, which in turn causes an ailing civilisation. An ailing
civilisation results in racial and religious intolerance, wars,
ailing forests, rivers, seas and atmosphere; ailing science and
culture; ailing parents whose fruits are ailing children. Thus,
the only right ecology is a personal ecology, and the only right
personal ecology is spiritual ecology. Spiritual ecology starts
from the fact that the Supreme Spirit, God or the Absolute is the
basis of all life, all phenomenal forms of life at all levels of
existence. The Supreme Spirit manifests itself as the Human Spirit,
and at lower levels of cosmic existence this manifests itself as
the soul (consisting of a mental and an emotional sphere, aura,
vehicle) and the body. Mens sana in corpore sano! A sound mind in
a sound body! Thus, to view and treat the body and the material
universe separately from their mental and spiritual matrix [1] ultimately leads to self-destruction and destruction
of the world.
1. This is the reason why love-erotic therapy both as a preventive
method and as a method for treatment, rehabilitation and re-socialisation
of the addicts is based on meditation. By regular meditation, the
practitioner establishes or re-establishes a permanent contact with
his own higher nature (supernature, selfhood, Human Spirit), and
in this way the perverted libido (thanatos) becomes again what it
is: libido – instinct and will for life. The individual starts loving
– both himself and the world around him. In front of his mind, enlightened
by his own Spirit, there flashes a deeper understanding of the meaning
of loving his neighbour as much as himself. The basic technique
of komaja meditation is made in such a way that it can equally easily
be adopted and used both by people belonging to different religions
and by atheists.
2. Loving or love meditation is an additional technique, accelerating
the process of broadening the consciousness at the expense of sub-consciousness,
as well as the development of a person into a truly loving person.
This is public group training and development of virtues of conscious
love and falling in love. In his book Paartherapie und Paarsynthese:
Lernmodell Liebe, M. Coellen also says: “It is not only the aspiration
at enjoyment (Freud), aspiration at power (Adler), aspiration at
security and food (Maslow) and aspiration at meaning (Franks) that
are the basic impulses of human action; aspiration at love ranks
at least equally with all the other basic motivations. The way of
developing and modelling love and intimacy decisively create and
form personality, the modern world and the society,”
[2] With quality guidance of graduate teachers
of komaja meditation, the positive effects of the two techniques
bring immense joy and delight to the practitioners, and even to
the persons in the same household.
[3]
3. Maituna (f. Sanskrit: maithuna – sexual intercourse) is similar
to the old Indian ritual sex act of the same name only in that both
of them serve the same purpose, i.e. realisation of a higher consciousness
in a lower nature by using love-erotic play. The rest is komaja’s
original “product”, offered both to materialists as a help in the
development of the sex technique, orgasmic ability, and also as
a new kind of art - as love-erotic art. [4] Understanding of the connection between the sexual and the
spiritual is not alien to the modern psychoanalysis today. In his
book Liebesbeziehungen Otto F. Kernberg says, ” Both in enjoyment
and in pain there is a search for more intensive experience, which
at times obliterates the limits of individuality, for experience
which can provide a basic meaning to life, for transcendence where
the sexual encounter and the religious ecstasy are interconnected,
for experience of freedom beyond the pressures of everyday existence”
[5]
4. The fourth basic element of love-erotic therapy as preventive
and curative therapy is what is known as theatre of truth.
This technique is an exceptionally important, inseparable and unavoidable
ingredient of maituna. As the word itself suggests, it is about
bringing to light (of consciousness) secret, forgotten, suppressed,
forbidden, unusual, etc. contents, both of the mind and of the body.
This is equally valid for sub-human, human and super-human contents.
To express publicly, to express, display everything that hurts and
makes one happy, everything that is or would like to be …
In this connection, Otto F. Kernberg also says, “It is more and
more obvious that the integration of the libido and aggression,
of love and hatred, is the main aspect of ability for love relationships,
as well as of their pathology (p. 96). I would like to stress the
importance of the libido and aggression, love and hatred in the
three main areas of a couple’s interaction, where love must overcome
the hatred” [6] .
Also: “Despite my best intentions, indisputable evidence makes me
warn about the great importance of aggression in this treatise on
love. However, on the other hand, an insight into complex forms
where love and aggression merge and interact, also puts light on
the mechanisms through which love can integrate and neutralise aggression
and even triumph over it in many constellations”.
[7]
To a certain degree this theatre of truth reminds of erotolalia,
however it is at the same time much more than that. This is what
it is about:
Scene 1 – Theatre of Truth
The play where the mind, the soul and the body of the woman
and the mind, the soul and the body of the man are at the same time
the only viewers, listeners, “players” and authors – this is the
komaja confession or theatre of truth.
EXPRESSION |
HOW |
HOW MUCH |
PURPOSE |
- essential needs of mind
and body
- all sorts of desires
- sexual voracity
- sexual worries and fears
- envy and jealousy
- mendacity
- homosexual and transvestite impulses
- guilty conscience and objective awareness
- suppressed aggression and hatred
- suppressed naturality, love and joy
- beauty and harmony
- admiration and adoration
- pure will
- bodily strength and ability
- enthusiasm and ecstasy
- power of spirit |
- by speech and singing
- by inarticulate speech
- by calling in different ways
- by screaming and yelling
- by crying and sobbing
- by mooing, growling etc.
- by laughing
- by different sorts of movement
- by different sorts of beating
- by different grimaces
- in some other ways |
- maximally allowable
excess is which does not affect the beauty or quality functioning
of the body and mind
- regarding the fact that this is not easy to estimate (neither
for an individual relationship, nor for a longer period), regular
consultation with komaja teachers is recommended
- complete mastering of the technique and the process usually
takes one to three years |
- to become perfectly
natural and spontaneous
- to completely realise one’s own sexuality and bring it under
control
- to teach oneself and the partner to genuinely enjoy sex
- to enhance and deepen mutual love
- complete truth
- complete harmony of thought, feelings, words and deeds
- supreme ecstasy and enlightenment by means of a sex act |
5. Polytherapy is a spiritual, manifold therapeutic method. In the twenty-odd years since I have been applying this
original method [8] of psychotherapy, I have noticed young people
(until 30 years of age) gladly and successfully undergoing it. In
order to achieve best effects it is ideal, if possible, to make
the following age groups:
a) beginning of puberty to 16/17,
b) 16 to 26 years of age
c) 20 to 30 years of age
d) 25 to 40 years of age
e) 40 and over.
Obviously there will and should always be exceptions
which often very favourably have a dynamic or a pacifying effect
on the group where they are the “odd ones”. Only when a certain
psychological maturity and routine has been achieved can final polytherapeutic
groups of “children” and parents be formed.
Scene 2 – Polytherapy
KIND OF THERAPY |
DEFINITION |
EFFECTS |
1. THERAPY OF TRUTH |
Supported by the therapist
and the group, openly confessing one’s minor and major “sins”,
faults and deviations (present and past). Presenting faults
that others have committed or are still committing against one
(without names). The accent is on things usually told only to
the priest and/or psychiatrist, or not spoken about. The greatest
positive effect is achieved by saying things most difficult
to utter. In this collective confession the greatest significance
is given to sexual aspect. |
- determination of strengths
and weaknesses of own and others’ complexes - determination
of real sexual needs and desires (both own and others’)
- commitment to experience the realised sexual needs and desires
- catharsis
- liberation from various psychosomatic disturbances and diseases
- etc. |
2. THERAPY OF WITNESSES |
a) consists of deliberate
observation, experiencing and overcoming embarrassment and pains
of the person speaking.
b) consists of deliberate observation, experiencing and overcoming
own embarrassment thinking about having to do the same oneself
c) the same holds for embarrassment and pains caused by the
contents itself. |
- same as 1, but of noticeably
lower intensity, together with:
- full awareness of the importance and necessity of understanding
and sympathy for one’s neighbours, especially for the parents,
partner/spouse and children |
3. ROLE-PLAYING THERAPY |
Each participant should
play the following three roles:
- confessor
- witness
- therapist (as much as will contribute to the success of the
therapy in the therapist’s assessment) |
- same as 1 and 2, but
of higher intensity, together with:
- marked mind broadening
- development of assertiveness
- initiation or enhancement of the process of soul maturity
(individualisation)
- improved communication and more complete acceptance of the
opposite sex |
4. PRESSURE THERAPY |
Pressure on a person to
confess something is done only at the person’s request or when
the therapist estimates that the person (whether consciously
or unconsciously) desires this help in publicising some secret
soul contents.
All the people present are instructed in advance that they can
request the interruption of this most delicate sort of therapy
at any moment. |
- pressure therapy primarily
enables increased awareness of the importance of free will,
both for one’s own mental and spiritual development and for
the development of the people we meet |
5. LOVE THERAPY |
The therapist (who also
goes through all roles), together with all the other participants
of polytherapy tries hard to support the endeavours of everybody
during this painful and often very embarrassing but very cathartic
process. Love therapy binds all the potential participants
to secrecy (made immediately before the start of polytherapy).
Anything learned about anyone during the polytherapy is a polytherapy
secret binding equally all the participants (just as the doctor
is bound by the medical secret and the confessor by the secret
of the confessional, etc.) |
- this therapy provides
(both for oneself and for the others) easier, deeper and quality
going through polytherapy as a whole
- the more a person has managed to be in love, the faster (following
polytherapy) he will be aware of what has been achieved and
the faster (but on a higher level!) he will regain complete
self-confidence
- with this therapy we clearly establish how much we have developed
and how much we still have to develop as conscious human beings. |
6. Togetherness is a notion denoting the virtue
of quality living in a community. From his first origins, the human
being is primarily a social being (from the evolution point of view:
a pack, a horde, a village community, a spiritual community), and
just in this framework and only as a part of this framework he is
an individual, and usually a conjugal, or family being. Without
the continuous existence and development of the human community,
the present so-called individualist cannot be imagined at all. Compared
to a true individualist who undoubtedly presents the next, a higher
stage in the development of the human community, the present individualist
is absolutely unthinkable. Compared to a true individualist who
undoubtedly presents the next, higher stage in the development of
a human individual, the present one is just a tragicomic imitation
– like a child who, by a combination of circumstances, has to take
the role of an adult in the serious and complex life. The present-day
individualist frantically tries to:
- be different from the others,
- excel at other people's expense,
- dominate over the others,
- during his life, build himself a pyramid or at least a tomb.
The individualist of the future meets his need
to give meaning to his life by:
- giving support to the uniqueness and creativity
of the others,
- helping the others and the community as a whole,
- mastering his own body, feelings and thoughts (self-control),
- outliving himself.
The present-day individualist, with a weak
and undeveloped Self, at the very thought of a union, he is frantically
afraid that the union (love, marriage, friendship, communal etc)
would swallow him, that his frail Self could disappear in the powerful
energy of any group spirit. On the contrary, the individualist of
the future feels challenged and invited to perfectly amalgamate
with the community and to serve it selflessly like a player in an
ideal football team, thus enriching both his own and the union’s
spirit. Since he has experienced many times how the death of his
Self out of love and for even greater love results in even greater
mental maturity, even greater individual power, he unsparingly gives
and surrenders himself. True love and giving himself to his neighbours
is his life style.
The present-day individualist hopes for and
is glad about his happiness.
The individualist of the future hopes for and is glad about other
people's happiness.
The present-day individualist is narcissistically in love with himself.
The individualist of the future actually notices and assists everybody
around him.
He is free, unconditioned, an aware, sustainable force in the nature.
He has realised that the collapse of the ego-structure by following
the law of love does not only mean the death of the old Self, but
much more, a birth of a new life, a much richer Self. He has turned
into a butterfly like a larva, into a chicken like an egg
This new type of man and fellowship is what
essentially characterises komaja, both as learning and as a community.
The realisation of this, and the scientifically and easily proven
value of community in the struggle against different forms of addiction,
are the basis of my assertion about the key position and necessity
of a healthy community in fighting and treating addiction.
This is because usually the re-integration
of a former addict into the community where (and often because of
which) he first became an addict, soon results in the same or a
new kind of addiction. Thus, heroin addiction turns into metadone
addiction, an alcoholic turns into a workaholic, and all kinds of
psychotherapists are very busy. We should not even mention psychosomatic
disorders and diseases. I see no other way from this vicious circle
of addictions (in a broader sense) but by creating a healthy community.
As evidence of this, I am presenting komaja community and its successes
in liberating from addiction, both in the narrow sense (drugs) and
in a broader sense, which can hardly be surpassed.
7. Absolute disregard of addiction is the seventh,
last basic element of love-erotic therapy.
All the institutions I know for the treatment
of drug addiction continually speak about addiction in various ways.
This is like telling a thirsty man that it is not good being thirsty,
and about the dire consequences of thirst on the body, how one should
not do bad things to oneself and to the others as a result of the
thirst, and things like this. Instead, I would say, we had better
give him a jug of fresh water. Consequently, instead fighting the
addiction, we should teach the addict about the way to genuine freedom
of the mind and the body, instead of endless psychobabble on the
lack of love we should simply love him, instead of psychotherapy
and group sessions we should engage him in collective sports and/or
intensive physical work with a great deal of humour and fun. Together
with this, we should also teach him about quality sex and eroticism
and provide him with good company.
Finally, I would like to draw your attention
to the following: last year only in Switzerland 8300 people died
as a result of smoking, and about 3000 people died from alcohol.
On the other hand, only 241 people died from illegal drugs in 1997.
About 30,000 Swiss are addicted to hard drugs. At the same time,
there are currently about 300,000 alcoholics and pill addicts in
Switzerland. The Federal Ministry of Health of the Republic of Germany
has published a report on drugs and addictions in 1998. The report
says there are 17.8 million smokers (43% male and 30% female) and
about 4 million alcoholics (8-9% persons aged 18-59). The same report
says that three in four patients treated for drug addiction have
primarily the problem of alcoholism. Furthermore, the rate of 12-25
year- olds with drug experience in West Germany has increased to
22% compared to about 17% and the end of 1980s.
All these data, together with data from other
countries, warn about the fact that it is the human community that
is ailing, rather than the young person that happens to be there.
Conclusion
Therapy is primarily necessary for parents because on the average
in the West, one in two marriages ends in a divorce. Therapy is
also necessary for scientists and business people who are still
inflicting grave wounds to "Mother Earth", then to the
clergy of the strongest religion of the Western civilisation, where
in the last thirty years approximatly one man in four has left the
order just to get married, etc., etc.
Every country needs a pluralistic, non-dogmatic
research and elimination of potential causes, as well as systematic,
spiritual and scientific fight of widely spread addictions.
Only in this way can we protect the physical
and mental health of our own, innocent children, and in this way,
the health of our nation.
[1] Cf. R Scheldrake, Das Schõpferische Universum,
Die Theorie des morphogenetisches Felder, Berlin, 1997
[2] M. Coellen, Paartherapie und Paarsynthese. Lernmodel
Liebe, Wien, New York 1997, p.8
[3] More on the two techniques and togetherness in
the lecture by Olivija Holjac “From drug addiction to love addiction”
[4] IMPORTANT NOTE: Maituna is completely in line
with the basic principles of middle-class and Christian morality
and ethics. This important element of love-erotic therapy
should be regarded as an important contribution and incentive
for introducing unbiassed, scientific and non-dogmatic love-erotic
education in the last form of primary school (14 year olds), secondary
schools and universities.
[5] Otto F. Kernberg, Liebesbeziehunhen. Normalität
und Pathologie, Stuttgart 1998, p.48. Original title: Love Relations.
Normality and Pathology, London 1995.
[8] All the methods and techniques of the basic seven
elements of love-erotic therapy are exclusively my “inventions”.
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